4. “SHEEL, SANTOSH, SHUCHI PIARO”
Maintain good character, be content, and
This rule contains 3 important virtues of human
life SHEEL, SANTOSH, SHUCHI.
SHEEL means good moral character, well behaved
and modest. All the religions & faiths and holy books support
this rule. Men & women should have sexual relationship through
the holy marriage only and they should not be involved in extra
marital affairs. Sexual desires should be controlled.
Due to not following this rule nowadays,
families are breaking apart, divorces are on rise, crimes
against women and immoral activities are increasing.
Human relations can be respected/honoured and
boundaries can be fixed by following this rule. Otherwise all
other holy relationships of mother, father, brother, sister,
friend etc. will be in danger and there will not be difference
between human and animal.
SANTOSH means contentment, satisfaction,
happiness. We should remain content & happy after getting the
result as per our efforts & eligibility. Opposite of this is
greed which has no limit or measurement and is major cause of
unhappiness. Remaining content gives us satisfaction and
happiness; otherwise our life becomes stressful which is major
cause of hypertension & heart attack.
It is true that money is necessary for
day-to-day requirements and a decent life but then there is no
limit of it. More money doesn’t give guaranty for happiness and
satisfaction. Being content does not mean that we should sit in
the house and do nothing. We should do hard work at the best of
our level to fulfil all our responsibilities and if
unfortunately we do not get the desired result then we should
not be sad and depressed. Remember luck/fate starts where our
efforts end. We should be happy and proud and thank God for
whatever we have otherwise many other are not as fortunate as we
are. If we are content then our mind will be peaceful and we
will have a good sleep otherwise discontent is the main cause of
crime, corruption, unethical practices, intolerance etc.
Happiness is a state of mind and does not have criteria or scale
but content do provide happiness.
A poor person may be happy but a rich person may
not be happy because he may be worried about keeping his money
safe. Some parents are sad because they don’t have children but
others are sad because their children are not as they expected.
So this is a never ending greed which only leads to unhappiness.
SHUCHI means purity, holiness, virtue. We should
keep external & internal purity. External purity means we should
keep our body, house, office, village/city and other belongings
neat & clean and organised. Internal purity is to keep our mind
& heart pure and without any sin or bad intention.
Internal purity comes from positive thinking,
love, honesty, peaceful mind and praying to God.
Guru ji also said in a shabad, “TAN MAN DHOIYE
SANJAM HOIYE, HARKH NA KHOIYE” means we should keep our body &
mind clean, control our desires and not to loose our happiness &
If our mind will be pure, honest & peaceful then
there will be less crime and more love & harmony.